This is the third post in the 4-part series looking at 5 Warning Signs that you need more joy or a sense of magic in your life. Yesterday we looked at stressing about time, and complaining that life is such a struggle. Today we’re looking at the 3rd and 4th Warning Signs.
Warning Sign #3 – You feel resistance to doing activities that you usually love (or have loved) the most. For example, let’s just say you really love your Aunt Gladys (it could be anyone!), and enjoy visiting her. Let’s also say it’s a beautiful Saturday, and you really want to take a bike ride, but have a voice in your head telling you that you “should” visit Aunt Gladys today.
The energy associated with words like “should” or “want to” are very different energies. If you find phrases like “can’t,” “should,” “shouldn’t,” or “have to,” are regularly creeping into your language, chances are great that you’re probably not steering your own boat.
Begin to let go of activities that reflect someone else’s agenda or values, and get in touch with your own needs and values. Learn to say no when you mean it, and start enjoying activities you love (even if you only have small increments of time available). You will find renewed energy and you’ll be more fully engaged and enjoying life when you do say “yes”.
Back to the example above with Aunt Gladys and the bike ride. When you think about visiting Aunt Gladys because you “should,” your energy is not likely to be very joyful around it. It’s quite possible that if you took even a few minutes for that bike ride, you will then really want to visit Aunt Gladys; and you will be engaging with her in a very present way.
Warning Sign #4 – You dislike most of the actions or options that are in front of you. If you have a decision or choice to make and no option or action ahead seems joyful, check first to see if you are caught in judgment. Stories you make up about things in your life, can easily keep you stuck. A great place for “judgment stories” is about things you’re afraid of. I’ve heard several sources reference the word FEAR as an acronym for False Evidence Appearing Real. Think for a minute — do you let stories around something you fear, run your life?
If you’re able to get past fear, and still having trouble identifying likeable options for some situation you’re facing, consider inviting some playful energy in, and see what shifts. That might look like simply asking new questions like “What if there was a different way to do xyz,” or “What might it look like if I really wanted to do abc?” or “What might it look like if I was really good at xyz?” Shifting perspective can do wonders toward allowing you to attract creative solutions. Ahhhh… and that can be a springboard to ease!
Stay tuned tomorrow as we look at the final warning sign that you need more joy or a sense of magic in your life. Read the entire article at http://budurl.com/mmqt. Begin changing outcomes by taking steps toward new actions now!
